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Butterfly Kisses
“Where has the time gone?” I mumbled to myself. “Just when I think I am organized, something unexpected pops up and that does away with my schedule.” Telephone calls, unending questions from my son, and 'honey dos' were just a few interruptions of the ...
Guard Your Heart
A study of God's instructions that we should guard our hearts. “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23). Let’s look at the word “spring”. The King James Version of the Bible uses the word ‘are’ ...
The Desired Effect of Music On Child: Transform Him or Her Into An Angel!
To get your kids to listen to child music is a powerful way to enhance the time your kids play with toys. Perhaps you are thinking of buying music to enhance your child’s play space. You might be asking: What music should I buy for my child? Hopefully ...
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I took pen to hand on loose leaf papers. I kept details of my love life, shed many a secret tear and wrote some of my finest, darkest poetry. Adult life found me writing on fragments of papers. These scraps housed everything from cute expressions my children used to my less dark poetry.
When I decided as a psychologist to interview women who were not in my practice, then incorporate my findings into a book, I never dreamed how much my own life writings would play an essential part. I had interviewed women ages 35 through early 80's, looking at how messages they received growing up about themselves, influenced them as adults. I asked them when they felt most whole, most joyful. In analyzing my data, I had an "Aha" moment. I saw these women, no matter how dysfunctional their childhoods, and no matter how many negative messages they had received growing up, had managed to find pleasure and joy in their adult lives. This insight convinced me that we have not utilized the history taking of our lives to focus enough on what is giving us pleasure and joy. Also we haven't learned to harvest out past so as to discover precious moments even in the most dysfunctional of times. This included me.
In writing THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy, I began writing about my past and experiences again, but this time looking for precious treasure: the positive parts of myself and my life. In writing down my thoughts, feelings and memories, I discovered many wonderful memories growing up. I found myself remembering times where I felt delighted with life and full of energy. There were moments of elation and successes when my true and sometimes lost potential showed through. I discovered events that even though they had felt unpleasant as I lived them, held within them so many of special gifts. I began to hold and treasure these times as I wrote them down, feeling deeply moved on occasion, to the point of tears ...
Ultimately what the women taught me and the personal journey I then went on, has led to my writing to you. I hope this e-mail newsletter stimulates you to recognize the best in yourself, in your history, and in your potential. For you too, have a treasury inside.
Exercise: Journaling
This exercise involves making positive deposits in your memory banks. Over the next few days, stay alert to when you are in a good mood. Try to use all you senses to experience the present more fully, especially when you become aware of a potential 'deposit'. When the moment is right, ask yourself the following questions: What is going on? Does it remind you of other good times in your life? Can you list several of these earlier events? What were the best parts of these earlier experiences?
Take the time to describe them by writing them down or dictating them into a tape recorder. Now gradually refocus your mind on the present. What are you seeing? What are the aromas? What are the sounds? How do these sensations make you feel?
Try to be aware of the details, taking time to savor them as you deposit them into your memory bank. If writing or dictating a narrative does not come easily to you, try drawing a picture, writing a poem, or composing a tune. Just do something to capture the moment in a way that is meaningful to you. Your abilities as an artist, writer, or composer are less important than your desire to relish life.
About the Author
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein , originator of THE ENCHANTED SELF®, a method of bringing delight and meaning into everyday living, invites you to view her new line of ENCHANTED WOMAN products, downloadable e-books, and free gifts at http://www.enchantedself.com. Chat with others in Dr. Holstein's e-group, http://groups.yahoo.com/group/encself/join, and sign up for her free e-group at www.enchantedself.com. Order her book, THE ENCHANTED SELF: A Positive Therapy, or the CD-rom or tape version and her book RECIPES FOR ENCHANTMENT: The Secret Ingredient is YOU!, or the ED-rom version, at http://www.enchantedself.com/ordering.htm
enchantedself@verizon.net
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Poetry: A poet's poise in the face of evilOregonLive.comBy Special to The Oregonian Poets who write the poetry of poise have an interest in the clarity of discovery, a desire to be immersed in the lyric values of the past in order to communicate with the future, and also a belief that the role of the poet ... |
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Affrilacian poet address Transylvania graduatesLexington Herald LeaderAffrilachian poet Bianca Spriggs, a 2003 Transylvania graduate, performed a poetry reading accompanied by graduating senior Caleb Ritchie on keyboard. Spriggs talked to the students about measuring time in non-traditional ways, such as remembering how ... |
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